Okay, so you may be wondering how to get a boyfriend, am I right? Well, the first thing you might want to consider is what do you want a boyfriend for in the first place?
Seriously, this isn’t a ridiculous question. The more you understand why it is you want a boyfriend, the easier it’s going to be for you to attract the kind of guy that will offer you the kind of RELATIONSHIP that will FULFILL you.
Frankly, if you’re looking for Mr. Right Now, then any boyfriend will do. But if you’re looking for Mr. Right, then you need to understand what kind of relationship will make you happy and will help you to grow as a person.
I see a lot of women making the mistake of making love and romance all about finding the right man, and once they have this right person, they try to force or compel him into a relationship or commitment that only the woman wants.
Let me be blunt her…
If you start looking for the right boyfriend instead of the right RELATIONSHIP, you may find yourself in a world of hurt later on. If what you’re looking for is Mr. Right, you’ll know him when he comes along because he will be more than willing to give you the kind of commitment that will make you the happiest.
And while I don’t recommend you lowering your standards just to find a boyfriend, it’s much easier to find a guy to hang out with right now than to find a guy to have as a potential long-term partner.
BUT, the reality of the matter is that the BEST things come to those who are willing to work on themselves so that they deserve them when the opportunity comes. So for the sake of this article, I’m going to share with you two amazing tips to help you to find a boyfriend who’s more likely to give you the kind of RELATIONSHIP that will give you long-lasting happiness and fulfillment.
Don’t get me wrong; it’s not that these tips can’t work for finding a more casual boyfriend; it’s just that I believe that women should never lower their standards because of a fear of loneliness or of being left behind.
Work on becoming the kind of women that men adore and a great guy WILL find you.
But enough of my yapping, here are two tips to help you find a great boyfriend:
1. Always Respect Yourself by Being Authentic
I can’t stress enough how important it is to know yourself and to become ridiculously comfortable in your skin. Quality guys have a built-in beacon that alerts them to a woman’s level of comfort with herself and with others.
When you first meet a potential boyfriend, you’ll want to put your best foot forward. That’s fine. But don’t confuse putting your best foot forward to be the same as putting up a false front.
If you want an honest man with integrity in your life (why would you want otherwise?), then be frank with him from the start. I’m not saying that you should just be an open book with him.
Far from it!
Men love finding out the deep mysteries of the woman they’re interested in. But what I am saying is that you shouldn’t tolerate anything less than your personal best regarding honesty and integrity as you deal with any potential boyfriend candidate.
What I’m trying to say is that you don’t have to change the who you are, the things you enjoy, and the things you believe just to keep a guy interested in you.
For example, if you meet a great guy, don’t say that you enjoy bowling if you don’t. Don’t tell him that you enjoy cooking if you don’t. And if he loves watching sports, don’t tell him that you appreciate it as well if you hate it.
How will he ever know the real you if you regularly change yourself to fit his idea of the perfect girlfriend? You’ll be miserable if you do. So don’t.
Become ridiculously honest with yourself and with the men you date, and you’ll soon discover how liberated you are and how attractive you become to the RIGHT kind of guy.
2. Don’t Over-Do It…With Anything
I’m going to share something fascinating with you, and it’s from my personal experience dating women…
When I came across women that simply went overboard with things too early in the dating game, I would lose interest. And it’s not just me, it happens to ALL men, at least the kind of people that you’d want to build a great long-term relationship with.
As a woman, it is HIGHLY important that you understand your self-worth and display significant amounts of self-control when trying to get a boyfriend. The more poise and discretion you show to a man, the more attractive he will find you and the more WORK he will put into romance you.
What I’m saying is that going overboard too soon with a guy will make him lose interest. You’ll seem “cheap” and “familiar” to him only because he now knows that he won’t have to PURSUE you to keep YOUR interest in HIM.
Men are hunters by nature. So if he realizes that he’s no longer the hunter, he will either become lazy or disinterested in doing the things to make you his girlfriend or even to commit to you even further.
That’s just the way it is.
So when I say don’t go overboard, I mean with EVERYTHING, especially in the early stages of finding a boyfriend of your own.
For example, don’t go overboard with complimenting him and making him feel as if he’s the only guy on earth that can make you happy. And you don’t have to hang on every word he says as if he’s a god of some sort.
It’s one thing to be attentive to him and to listen to him (men love that by the way), but it’s another thing entirely to overdo it. Be sincere in your praise, make him feel special, but don’t get him to feel like your “one and only” if you’re just getting to know him.
Also, have a life of your own which includes friends, hobbies, passions, and interests. Don’t drop them all immediately when you meet a great guy. Chances are he was attracted to you because of your zest for life and the fact that you have a life.
Don’t make him your life as soon as he walks through the door. This will KILL the attraction he has for you because he’ll begin to see you as clingy and needy.
You don’t want this to happen because the more he feels as if you NEED his attention to be happy, the LESS attention he will give you. I’ll admit that it’s a strange paradox, but it’s’ very, very true.
If you have things going on in your life other than him, he’ll feel the need to give you more of his time and attention to keep you interested in HIM.
And here’s the final idea I want you to remember for finding a boyfriend…
If a guy is right for you, he will WANT to pursue you. He needs to feel as if he has to continue you to win your heart and keep your interests. Because if he doesn’t feel as if you’re a REWARDING challenge for him, he won’t give you what it is you’re looking for in a relationship.
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